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The Truth About Building a Home: It’s An Emotional Rollercoaster

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Author. Clare Booth • Director

From excitement to anxiety, we explore the emotional highs and lows of building a house and share what you can expect during the construction process.

Building a home is one of the biggest and important investments you’ll make in your life, and we know you want the process to be stress-free. But no matter how much we plan, strategise and prepare, there are some emotions that you, the client, may naturally experience. 

Like any disruption to your routine, the process of building requires patience, flexibility and some periodic reminders that change is good. It’s why we always show our clients ‘The Homeowner’s Emotional Rollercoaster’ by David Lupberger, an accomplished American contractor who successfully created the best building experience for his customers. His graph is a surprisingly accurate depiction of the emotional highs and lows most clients experience when building a home.

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01. Design Phase: Excitement and Inspiration

Excitement is high in the initial design phase. You may have been planning this project for years and finally getting your ideas down on paper brings feelings of joy and anticipation. There is great emotional satisfaction envisioning your dream home and all it entails.

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02. Quotes, Value Engineering & Contracts: Anxiety

After the initial design is finished, it can feel like things slow down while the quote is being prepared. As the overall cost becomes clearer, money can sometimes take away a bit of the fun. At this point, you might need to adjust the design to fit within your budget. This can be a tug-of-war of wants, needs and compromises.Some clients also report feeling a little nervous about signing a building contract, but it's really just about agreeing on the responsibilities and expectations for you and your builder.

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03. Construction Begins: Anticipation

Once a building contract has been signed, anticipation starts to build. Trades professionals arrive on site, materials are ordered and work begins. In the early days, progress happens quickly. Demolition, foundations, framing, roofing and windows have the most tangible progress and clients are often surprised by the speed at which it occurs. You can now see in three dimensions what your new home looks like and that’s exciting.

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04. Mid Build: The Blues

Halfway through the project, it might seem like progress has ground to a halt as the less visible, more technical aspects of the build are tackled. At this point, electrical cables are run, plumbing is roughed in and insulation is installed. Although the builders are on site every day, it’s natural at this stage to feel like the project is dragging.

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05. Construction Wraps Up: Optimism

The arrival of plasterers, painters and decorators is a big turning point. It’s where your project goes from looking like a construction site, to looking like a home. Optimism returns as the cabinets, flooring, tiles and finishes are installed. There is light at the end of the tunnel. 

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06. Move In: Elation!

The best part of the building process is when your home is complete and you can officially move in. We’ll walk you through your new home and hand over all guarantees, test certificates and warranties. We’ll then follow up at one, three, six and twelve months to ensure your home is defect free and put right any issues. 

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The Reward

Rather than simply choosing an existing home, building is all about compromise. It’s easy to let stress get to you, especially when you’re debating the merits of finishes or floor layouts. But if you keep the main goal in sight – a home for your family’s future – it’s easier to see what’s really important. 

At Coldwells Build, we know most clients will go through some version of the emotional rollercoaster, but it’s important to remember we’re by your side throughout the building process. 

As experienced, award-winning contractors, we’re here to guide and support you through every phase of your build and at the end, help you step inside your beautiful new home.

Author.

Clare Booth

Director

A trained communicator, Clare co-founded Coldwells Build with the aim of improving consumer experience within the construction process. Working previously as a television director and journalist, she understands more than most, about the power of detail, organisation and timing.

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